This is Week 10 in the Grace in Everyday Relationships Series. Most of us do not start our adult lives with a blank slate. We carry a whole library of experiences from the families we grew up in—how anger was handled, how affection was expressed or withheld, how conflict, money, and faith were talked about (or never talked about at all). Over time, those early lessons harden into patterns. You may find yourself reacting in ways that surprise you: snapping like your dad, shutting down like your mom, running from conflict like one grandparent, or trying to keep everyone happy like another.​ At some point, many believers quietly wonder, “Am…